top of page


Affirmations are:

  • A clear statement (affirming) something to be true for you

  • For something to be true for you, you simply need to decide that it is - or that you want it to be true. This is where the use of an affirmation comes in.

  • Most (if not all) of us, have created our beliefs and truths in this way - by hearing others tell us things about ourselves and then we repeat it in our thoughts (and sometimes out loud to others and ourselves) until we believe it and it becomes our truth - we believe it to be true.

  • What we believe to be true can change (thankfully!), so if a teacher or other adult in our childhood has told us we are stupid (for example) and we have come to believe it to be true and believe that we are, indeed, stupid, we now have the tools to undo that unhelpful programming and replace it with a belief that is in our best interest.

  • A positive affirmation does just that -  it supports us by helping us to change the beliefs that we want to change

  • Affirmations change beliefs in exactly the same way as those beliefs got there in the first place - but quicker.

  • How? Read on...

The First Step

  • Decide what change you would like to make. This change is not about trying to change other people or situations - the (immense) power we all have is to change ourselves inside. We change how we feel about ourselves and what is happening in our lives and that changes our life experience. 

  • Identify the belief you have that creates the concept or behaviour you would like to change

  • Write down the exact opposite to get your positive affirmation

  • Keep it short and simple eg. "I am calm and relaxed"



  • Are always in the present tense (as though they are already true)

  • Are clear, concise and use simple, everyday language

  • Say what you want- NOT what you don’t want. Eg. Instead of “I am never late” the correct wording would be “I am always on time”

  • If you can, put them to a tune (one you already know, or make up a new tune to fit is you can) and sing them- this is extremely effective because singing is processed in both sides of the brain whereas speech is not.

  • Say/sing in bouts of three, changing the emphasis each time. This changes the meaning and ramps up the effectiveness quite a bit. So, with emphasis written here in bold: 

    • “I am capable” stresses being capable

    • “I am capable” stresses that capable is what you are- you are actually realising, “Yes, I am capable- as in, I can do this!”

    • I am capable” emphasises the “I” as in, “It really is me that is capable!” Try it- changing the emphasis changes the feel.

Pupae and cocoons are suspended_edited.jpg
bottom of page